Are you ready to be “Selfish”

Ok so lets start by saying when I say selfish I am not taking about the negative version and when people say “oh she’s soooo selfish” and they mean it in a bitchy way…..because guess what, I have amazing news for YOU……DRUM ROLL

Its OK to be Selfish….actually its kinda a necessity

You see whenever there is “ish” behind a word…its means to you belong (i.e English..means you belong to England, you “ARE’ from England)…so begin SELFISH basically just means you belong to YOU

Ive been sat thinking today (which sometimes can be a bad thing for me…my head hurts ha) and I have been thinking about the struggles we all go through, the constant search for perfection and for some the constant feeling of inadequacy….whether its down to self belief or BS and peer pressure from others around us (even if we initially think they are not affecting us) and as I have been sat here thinking, it upsets me that WE (Me included) often can feel we aren’t good enough.

SO ask yourself these few questions now…….

What do YOU do for YOU?

When was the last time you just sat and were in the moment?

When was the last time you have “YOU time”?

I can guarantee most of you reading this wont even be able to remember…..because we live in society where we like to fill “empty space’ – whether that be with TV, Phones, Social Media (Im not saying you cant do these things)

Life takes over and we end up doing everything for everyone else….and we forget to take time for US and take time for the moments to just “BE”….but do you know what  its OK to be better for YOU…not for anyone else…just for YOU

The Art of relaxation is a unknown, touchy subject amongst many and many struggle just to STOP and reflect and just take some time to take back all the energy we use and give away on a daily basis…its doesn’t have to be a crazy extravagant thing…just a walk, bath, nap, cuppa -alone, with NO interference, no social media, no work and no phones….just time for YOU. We give away so much energy on a daily basis, that self preservation is now essential so we can top our energy back up and allow our bodies and our minds to work to their full, true potential….

In this modern day, we take on too much, Especially Mums/Wifes….you do everything for everyone else…but what ABOUT YOU??? dont you matter? Of course you do…more than anyone else…remember its OK (and necessary) to be SELFISH!!!…..Stop trying to be superwoman and take on hr world….because in the long run its going to make you sick (and I dont always mean physical illness…mental and emotional illness too…and draining of all your energy and who YOU really are)

Start to get comfortable with time alone…I LOVE being along, I m deaf a introvert at heart – but present characteristics of an extrovert in my work life…but deep down I LOVE being alone, whether I am off for a walk, food, drink, or just sat reading and often meditating…I LOVE my own company (and yes thats because I am frigging amazing haha) all jokes said though…why dont YOU LOVE YOURSELF??? and if you dont….you cant expect others too..

Happiness and Love start within, are created within, I dont believe they are from external forces…..in my opinion it all starts within and unless you are happy with YOU and you LOVE YOU….then it cant be found in anything or anyone…yes things and people can ADD to your happiness and bring MORE love…but they cant create it…thats all done to YOU

We often (and I am sooo guilty of this) believe that we are only successful if we are busy!! Crazy hey…but I used to fill all my “empty Space” with work and just keeping my self “busy” in the hope Id be more successful and more happy…when really all I wanted to do was slob in front of the TV and have a fucking chill……so yeh BIG lesson to be learnt here…LISTEN TO YOUR BODY – its giving you signs all the time

Busy doesn’t equal Success

LISTEN TO YOUR BODY…its will often start giving your “physical” pain in order for you to LISTEN to it….so nip it in the bud before that happens

Our brains are constantly working….phones, social media, work, emails, TV, responsibilities ….the brain needs a break too.

LOVE YOU – think of all the people who love you – they do for a reason right? because you are worth it (flick ur hair in the style of L’Oreal if you must) but they love you because they see something special in YOU…..so start looking deeper and seeing that same something special.

You cant pour from an empty cup…..take care of yourself first!!!

Take time out for YOU…..Its NOT a bad thing, its essential!!!

Start NOW

Jen x